Living Art and Jones Sodas

Donated panel from Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

Sometimes an experience grows beyond one’s initial purpose. I had one of those enriching moments when a group of at-risk young teenaged boys came to work in my yard. After our introductions, one asked, “Why is your yard so nice?”

“I’m an artist,” I replied. “My yard is like one of my art canvases. Have you seen my ArtPrize works downtown?”

“No. I’ve never been to ArtPrize.”

“Your school has one of my ArtPrize works,” I said. “Have you seen it?” I described one of the 3-foot by 6-foot wooden panels covered with thousands of orange ribbons that had been donated to their school. “ArtPrize visitors tied 100,000 orange ribbons on Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind as a promise to live by the Golden Rule. The single panel at your school probably has about 10,000 ribbons on it.”

“That’s yours? It’s in our gym. May we see more of your artwork?”

“Later. After we are done working,” I answered.

For the next three hours, I worked alongside the boys and introduced them to plants, like hostas, day lilies, and ferns. We discussed shade plants and trees. I described the various wildlife creatures that visit our yard.

When we discovered a dead chipmunk, they wanted to know how the chipmunk died. One asked, “Did it fall out of a tree?”

“No,” I said. “Chipmunks don’t usually fall out of trees. Maybe it died of old age or disease.”

Then I went inside to bake fresh chocolate chip cookies and gather an assortment of Jones sodas while the boys finished the yard chores. We then sat at my patio table to eat; the boys did the math on how many cookies they each got and decided which color Jones soda they wanted. While they ate, I showed the boys two of my art photo books.

They listened intently to my introduction of The Scarlet Cord—my awareness work on sex-trafficking. I also showed them images from Courage Ablaze on the plight of the Congolese women and children. I told them a few stories about rebel soldiers sweeping through villages killing the men and raping the women. The boys asked more details about one of the stories, “Why did the soldiers kill the father? Did the mother see her five daughters being raped?”

“The rebel soldiers want to destroy the will of the people and break their spirits. Congo is mineral rich with gold, diamonds, and coltan,” I said. “Coltan is what you have in your cell phones and laptop computers. Eight million Congolese people have been slaughtered, and two millions women have been raped. The war is about greed.”

As our fifteen minute art discussion came to a close, the boys asked, “May we come back again? May we take the empty soda bottle as a souvenir?”

“Yes,” I smiled. I was touched that teenaged boys would be so interested in my artwork that they wanted a souvenir.

This art moment held special meaning for me too. As the boys left, I remembered that years ago this is how my dad taught me. He worked alongside me, introducing me to nature and to gardening. Now I was reproducing this same knowledge in others. One life touching another like a continuous living artwork that spans generations. Perhaps I’ll keep an empty Jones soda bottle too.

Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind: Thriving

MaskThis anonymous story is about a courageous young woman that experienced the stabbing pain of bullying but rose above the abuse. Her resolve and fierce spirit is inspiring.

Behind the Mask

During middle school, the sharks had already figured out that I’m autistic as if they detected a trace of blood. If one disability or disadvantage is enough to rouse their appetite, imagine how another will create a feeding frenzy. Many people bullied me enough as it was, almost every other day in fact, but would it get even worse now that I was in a wheelchair?

The middle school was recently finished at the time around 2004, and yet they hardly accommodated for handicapped people. A few of my classmates were surprisingly kind—they actually talked to me. Others only used me to get out of class; the teacher would pick someone to help push my wheelchair and then let us leave slightly earlier than everyone else for lunch. However, most of the students continued to harass me in almost every way possible, physically and verbally. And one day they went too far.

Everyone was in the gymnasium after finishing their lunch. I was in the hallway. All the sudden, two guys grabbed the handles from behind me, pushed the wheelchair as hard as they could, and then they let go. I couldn’t stop. I flew towards one of the blue support columns. The wheelchair clipped one of its corners at such a fast rate that I flew off my seat sideways.

They ran off, leaving me all alone on the cold, blueish gray floor tiles. I’ll never forget how painful it was to hit the ground. The shock shot up my leg like a flash of lightning. I screamed, it hurt so much, but no one heard me. No one came to help me. The wheelchair was flipped on its side, damaged with its wheels still spinning.

After struggling to lift my wheelchair to be upright again, I went about my day pretending it didn’t happen, when in reality I was shattered. Horrified. Enraged. My mask hid all the stirring emotions and thoughts going through my head all at once. I could’ve been a great actress or poker player with how I could so easily fool a crowd. Weakness must not be shown ever to anyone, I thought. When my parents asked how school went, I lied, “I’m alright.” But in private, I broke down in the darkness of my bedroom; as I sat on the floor starring up at the white ceiling.

Sadly, this wasn’t the first time I had been attacked, and it certainly wasn’t the last. I have always been a good person, trying my best to get good grades and to help others. Those bullies, as well as all the ones before and after them, went after me for no reason; they saw me as less than human—an abomination. Most days, I sat alone at the cafeteria; I was an outcast. My life continued to fall apart to the point where I felt worthless—I desired for all of it to end, one way or another.

Now I am a junior in college, close to getting my Bachelor’s Degree in Digital Media. Countless people told me that I would never become anything, calling me all sorts of names and so on. They didn’t so much as hesitate when they finally told me that I should just go kill myself. In a sick sense of foreshadowing, the first bully I encountered back in third grade once said that I wouldn’t live past eighth grade.

But I managed somehow to move past all of that. I managed to actually see value in myself again, despite all the voices trying to tell me otherwise. The damage done has yet to fully leave, and some of the wounds may remain as scars. But I will survive in the night and thrive in the light. Don’t let anyone tell you that you are nothing because you are good enough just the way you are.

About Pamela

Artist and facilitator Pamela Alderman creates a new kind of artist/citizen work that invites audience collaboration. The work lets others speak and respond. Over the last nine years, Alderman’s interactive healing installations, including The Scarlet Cord and Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind, have touched thousands—one individual at a time. For more information, visit Healing in Arts or email ally@watercolorbypamela.com.

ArtPrize 8: Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind Travels to Virginian School

Students at Virginia school tying paper koy fish with kindness promises on Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

In April, my ArtPrize Eight Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind installation traveled to an elementary school in Virginia, shown above, and influenced students to create their own work in a Detroit area school. In Virginia during my presentation, seven hundred students pumped their fists and chant “Oh yeah” every time I said, “Be a friend first” or “Treat everyone like a friend.” Then the students wrote promises to live by the Golden Rule on orange paper fish and tied the fish onto an orange canvas.

This installation has started conversations in other schools, too. Here are some pictures showing how ArtPrize Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind also inspired students in Detroit to color their school orange. These third graders painted koi fish and wrote kindness promises.

Close-up of kindness promise Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind third grader project Close-up of koi fish

Logan’s Story

The Gold Rule encourages us to treat everyone like a friend. Logan’s story shows us how to live by the Golden Rule.

“Hey, Logan,” the kids taunted. “Go get the gas meter and bring it over here.” Innocently, Logan, who has autism, ran over to the gas meter and attempted to pull it off the house. But when the game was over, the kids ditched Logan, leaving him in tears.

But Logan continued to respond to bullying with kindness. When students forgot their lunches, Logan was the first to say, “Do you like potato chips? You may have mine.”

By living by the Golden Rule—treating everyone like a friend, even your enemies—Logan colors his neighborhood with kindness. How can you live by the Golden Rule?

For more information on how to book Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind for your school or next event, contact ally@watercolorbypamela.com.

An ArtPrize Artist’s Journey and Live Painting with Pamela Alderman

Orange ribbons being tied onto Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind at ArtPrize Eight

Spring Luncheon at Calvin College, Wednesday, March 29, 2017

ArtPrize has opened surprising doors for artist Pamela Alderman. Over the past eight years, her interactive exhibits have touched thousands of visitors with the message of hope and healing. Pamela creates unique exhibits that focus on the viewers and their needs. Every year visitors express appreciation for the sacred space to talk about their stories.

Alderman’s presentation will include an inside look of creating her 2016 ArtPrize installation called Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind where visitors tied 100,000 orange ribbons as a promise to be kind in addition to a live painting demonstration with her hands.

Spring luncheon and presentation
Wednesday, March 29, 2017 at noon
Calvin College Chapel Undercroft
3201 Burton Street SE
Grand Rapids, Michigan 49546
Cost: $19.00
Call (616) 526-8777 or email call@calvin.edu

ArtPrize 8: Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind Donation

Donated panel from Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

The Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind orange panels with thousands of ribbons signifying a promise to be kind have been donated to the following schools and organizations:

Westwood Middle School of Grand Rapids, Michigan
William C. Abney Academy of Grand Rapids, Michigan
Southwest Community Campus of Grand Rapids, Michigan
Kentwood Public Schools of Kentwood, Michigan
West Michigan Academy of Spring Lake, Michigan
Saranac Community Schools of Saranac, Michigan
Wedgewood Christian Services of Grand Rapids, Michigan