ArtPrize 2013: Healing Art Still Touches Lives

Wing and a Prayer exhibit

“I Have Autism, But Autism Doesn’t Have Me.”

Walker Aurand said, “I think I’m ready. I think I’m ready to let kids my age know that I have autism, but autism doesn’t have me…”

Walker wrote the paper on living with autism—and soon he had an opportunity to share his story with an even larger audience. A family friend and local artist, Pamela Alderman, was preparing for an upcoming competition in Grand Rapids called ArtPrize. She wanted to paint Walker, and next to the painting she wanted to include an excerpt from his essay.

And this wasn’t just any art event. Held in downtown Grand Rapids every year, ArtPrize attracts hundreds of thousands of attendees. Walker considered the offer for about a week, and then he agreed to have his story included. And then on the day it opened…

Wings of LoveArtPrize 2013 visitors hanging messages on the Wall of HopeClose-up of Wall of Hope

“He came home from school,” Anna recalls, “and he said, ‘Mom, this freakish thing happened today.’ He said, ‘I’m sorta freaked out about it.’ He said, ‘All these kids saw my painting,’ and he said, ‘My phone is blowing up.’ He said, ‘I bet I have 150 texts: Is that you, Walker? Is that you, Walker?’ He said, ‘Mom, I didn’t know I had friends.’ I said, ‘Right.’ I said, ‘How do you feel about all this?’ He said, ‘I’ve decided it’s OK.’”

…The same guy who used to hide his disorder from other students and teammates recently published an essay about his experience on a Michigan hockey website.

These days Walker Aurand has nothing to hide—and he wants to make a difference.

“I hope that if there’s someone else out there like me, that it shows that there’s hope for everybody,” Walker says. “If your gut’s telling you to go and achieve something, then go do it. And don’t worry about what other people tell you that you can and can’t do.”

Check out the full story…

The Scarlet Cord Showcases at the Kent County Courthouse

Wounded - Mixed media art and part of The Scarlet Cord installation

Pamela will be presenting The Scarlet Cord: Healing for Sex Trafficked Children at the Kent County Courthouse to help educate about commercial sex trafficking—called modern day slavery.

Violated

“Are you the artist?” the young woman asked from the distance of fifteen feet. But before I had a chance to move within normal conversation range, her rigid arm and raised hand extended towards me like a traffic cop—communicating a clear message: “Stop. Don’t come any closer.”

Although this young woman was trying to hide her past, she unveiled her deep secrets to a group of us at The Scarlet Cord installation outside the Ford Presidential Museum during ArtPrize 2014.

A volunteer asked her, “Would you like one of the artist’s cards?”

“No,” she responded. “I know more than I ever wanted to know.”

Then she walked towards me, but she kept the brochure table between us. “You have used all the right words,” she added.

One word from The Scarlet Cord installation came to mind: violated.

The young woman tried to maintain the impression of being in control, but she was fractured. Broken. She had learned survival skills. Self-protection strategies. I wondered, though, if these carefully laid plans were blocking the road to healing. Or was she doing the best that she could?

Learning to trust again would be a long process for her. It could take a lifetime to overcome such deep wounds. This young woman needed loving friends who would help break down her fifteen-foot barrier, caring people to journey with her towards wholeness and freedom.

The Scarlet Cord Film Helps Educate

Judge Patricia Gartner utilizes The Scarlet Cord Film as an educational tool for juveniles in the court system to learn about sex trafficking and its impact.

The Golden Rule?! Extravagant Kindness

“Treat everyone like a friend, especially your enemies,” said Jeff Veley, a national speaker with Love Changes It All Tours, when I asked him how to communicate the Golden Rule to kids. We were discussing school bullying and teaching kids how to be resilient. Jeff’s strong words invited me to ponder their significance.

The next day I met a soldier whom I’ll call John. John surprised his fellow soldiers by risking everything for his enemy. As bullets sprayed from every direction, John zigzagged the battle field to help a wounded enemy soldier, who sprawled suspended between life and death.

As I listened to John, Jeff’s words lept into full color: “Treat everyone like a friend, especially your enemy.” John’s story illustrated the core message of Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind: Be kind to everyone. Even your enemies.

As ArtPrize visitors tie orange ribbons on the artwork, I wondered how many would be willing to cross the great divide and extend kindness to those hardest to love. I thought about myself. How deep is my love? Would I be willing to treat my enemy like a friend? A flippant “Yes” isn’t easy to rattle off.

John is one of the bravest people I have ever met. But risking his life isn’t what is truly amazing about his story. The deeper story goes beyond self sacrifice. The real story is about love that crosses the fiercest battlefield—not for a cherished friend—but for an enemy. A foe who would have possibly shot and killed John first had he been given the chance.

John, however, plunged out onto the battlefield without taking days, weeks, or even hours to consider the consequences of such extravagant kindness. Such costly love. As I considered his story, I wondered, What would happen if we started to teach kids to live by the Golden Rule—“Treat everyone like a friend, especially your enemies”—when confronted by a bully at school?

For reasons of security, names have been changed.

Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

ArtPrize Eight (2016) Artist

Coloring with Kindness
Gerald R. Ford Presidential Museum
September 21 to October 9, 2016
Vote 62626
(Located outside on the museum plaza)

Tell Us Your Story. #ColorMeKind

Watch the Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind video…

Bridge Street Electric: Shinning a Light on Kindness

Pamela and Bridge Street Electric staff while planning the lighting for Color Me Orange—Color Me KindMockup for lighting plan on Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

A special thank you to Bridge Street Electric for creating custom fixtures and donating a large part of the lighting for Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind. It was a pleasure to work with the owners, Jim and Deb Dagley, and their staff at Bridge Street Electric.

Life’s Circles

Mom, 39

I remember when I was about 10, a mom with a young Down’s syndrome girl was walking down the beach. The young girl was making “fart” noises with her mouth. My friends and I laughed and mimicked her. We mocked, “Did you hear that? She’s farting!”

The mother overheard and approached us. She kindly confronted the situation, explaining her daughter’s condition and her inability to control certain actions. She asked us how we would feel if we were mocked. I felt humbled and bad about what we had done.

Fast forward 25 years when I was given a child with special needs. He too was made fun of at times. Then I had the opportunity to explain my child’s disabilities to “bullies” and ask them how they would feel if they were mocked.

I never forgot that woman and her daughter. I’m still ashamed—remembering how we mocked that little girl. Even writing this memory is painful. I now know what it’s like to be on the other end as a mother with my special needs child. That woman prepared me, years ago, to deal with my own special needs child. I hope I can do the same for others.

Understanding Bullying: Check out the Pine Rest resource on bullying…

Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

ArtPrize Eight (2016) Artist

Coloring with Kindness
Gerald R. Ford Presidential Museum
September 21 to October 9, 2016
Vote 62626
(Located outside on the museum plaza)

Tell Us Your Story. #ColorMeKind

Watch the Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind video…

Ford Presidential Museum Showcases Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

Closeup detail of koy fish art on Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

The Gerald R. Ford Presidential Museum is hosting ArtPrize Top 20 Artist Pamela Alderman’s work called Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind from September 21 to October 9, 2016. The interactive work highlights anti-bullying and invites visitors to counteract bullying, whenever possible, with kindness. Alderman has prepared 50,000 orange interactive ribbons for viewers to tie onto the mesh canvas—to stand in solidarity with those who have been bullied and to empower people to prevent bullying.

Coloring with Kindness

Christy, 7

While I was doing my math homework at school, I heard two girls whispering about me. When they were done, they looked at me and laughed. I felt sad like something inside of me was down a little. I tried to forget it.

I didn’t do anything wrong. During recess, all I do is solve friendship problems, and all I get back is them whispering about me. But I know I had to make friends with one of the girls, so she wouldn’t whisper.

A week later I saw her walking on the sidewalk with her hands behind her back, looking at the ground. I was an expert at making friends, so I asked, “Can I play with you?”

She said, “Yes.” We went on the swings together. And we made up this secret swing thing—we grab onto the bars and then swing a little bit and then do it all over again.

Well, we made such great friends. I could tell we were both seeing if we could get closer. I felt happy and excited to make new friends.

Amber, 6

Me and my bother Cole were starting to fight. Then I suggested to “hug it out.” It felt better.

A special thank you to the Girl Scouts of Michigan Shore to Shore for providing the stories. For reasons of security, names have been changed.

Discover how to resolve conflict with a bully from Jeff Veley…

Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

ArtPrize Eight (2016) Artist

Coloring with Kindness
Gerald R. Ford Presidential Museum
September 21 to October 9, 2016
Vote 62626
(Located outside on the museum plaza)

Tell Us Your Story. #ColorMeKind

Watch the Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind video…

ArtPrize 8: Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can…Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can… Martin Luther King, Jr.

Painting of fish on acrylic panelKindness matters. The paintings of the koi fish swimming against the strong currents in Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind depicts our struggles with difficult relationships. No one is immune from hate. The words “Stop bullying” don’t cause change. But words like “Be kind” empower us to bring out the best in others. Deliberate small acts of kindness—like encouragement, forgiveness, and love—display strength.

Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind invites visitors to tie an orange ribbon on a mesh canvas representing our commitment to live by the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” If we choose to treat others with kindness—even those hard to like or who are different—we are swimming upstream. When kindness colors over hate, we can impact our culture with the message of love and healing.

I would like to thank Macy’s at the Woodland Mall for showcasing one of the Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind paintings during ArtPrize 8.

More information on bullying…

Color Me Orange—Color Me Kind

ArtPrize Eight (2016) Artist

Coloring with Kindness
Gerald R. Ford Presidential Museum
September 21 to October 9, 2016
Vote 62626
(Located outside on the museum plaza)

Tell Us Your Story. #ColorMeKind